It's The Little Things

You don't like the way he chews his gum so loud, he doesn't like that perfume you always wear.  

You don't like the way he leaves clothes laying all over the place, and he doesn't like how you always go out with your girlfriends on Friday nights. 
 
You don't like the way he looks over his shoulder at the girls passing by when your out, he doesn't like how you talk about your fights with him to your friends.

Any of this sound familiar?  When you look at this list it might not seem like a big deal, typical relationship stuff.  People do not realize that little things that occur on a regular basis are the things that wear on your relationship constantly.  If you deal with one big situation or crisis, you move on from it and it's done. 

But when you have constant aggravations day after day it takes a more exhausting toll on you.

If there are things that your loved one does that bother you that much you need to talk about it with them.  The longer you let them go on, the more you are going to be annoyed by the person. 

Communicate.  When you love someone you want to make things better.  If your heart is not in making things better, maybe your heart is not in love anymore.
 

Supporting The One You Love

When we are in a relationship with someone it is inevitable that there are going to be times when one of you is up and one is down.

Also there may be times one of you has a hard decision to make. When these types of situations arise you need to be there to support each other. The worst feeling a person in a relationship can have is a feeling of loneliness or that they do not have the support of the one they love.

When you are in a relationship with someone, especially after the first year your relationship has gotten to a deeper level than before. You will notice that the decisions you make have an impact in the life of your significant other.

Two quick points I want to make then I will wrap this up.

1. Your relationship is a team and you need to work together for a better outcome.

You should both be reaching individual milestones and goals but at the same time those goals should include each other and work towards the growth of your relationship together.

2. Be Understanding And Don't Judge

Sometimes your loved one may feel like they can't come to you for support because you will judge them or criticize them off the bat before they even tell you what's going on. Listen to them and see what is going on.

You might disagree with what they need to do but respect them as an adult and as your equal and let them speak. Try to give your opinion only when it is asked for. Maybe they just want someone to listen so they can release the burden but do not want to be told what to do.

Relationships are not easy, especially when there are tough situations and a decision needs to be made. But just remember that you are in it together and you must treat the one you love like the one you love!

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